Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another. – Proverbs 27:17
It was a Tuesday morning in February, almost four years ago, that I decided it was time for me to quit drinking. I had tried several times to quit in the past, but I had failed. It was different this time. This time I asked for help. I turned first to God and asked Him to help get this demon off my back. I knew I couldn’t make it on my own. He told me that I needed an accountability partner. That morning while we were driving I told my friend that I needed help. I told him that I needed to quit drinking. He immediately said that he would help me. The first thing we did was to pray about it. It was a long journey, but together with God’s help we were able to stop drinking. I say we because I found out that in order to help me, he decided to quit drinking too.
There is a list of 5 steps that you can take to assist you in this process. These steps are based on several of the steps in the Celebrate Recovery Program.
1. Admit you have a problem. You must admit to yourself that you have a problem and that you are powerless to overcome it by yourself. Admit that your life has become unmanageable.
2. Believe that there is a greater power. You must believe that there is a power much greater than yourself. You must realize that only with God’s help will you be able to beat this thing.
3. Make the decision that you want to change. In view of God’s mercy, you must offer your body as a living sacrifice as a spiritual act of worship.
4. Confess your sins. Admit to God, yourself, and your accountability partner the exact nature of your problems.. Confess your sins to each other and ask God for forgiveness.
5. Continue to pray. It is imperative that you pray through this whole process. Pray that you may be healed so that God would be glorified and pray for your accountability partner that he or she will remain strong through the process and build his/her relationship with God.
This journey is not over.
This is a journey that you will be on for the rest of your life. If you are serious about wanting to kick an addiction or to get rid of emotional pain, or to stop a habit that is drawing you away from God, i strongly recommend that you get into one of several 12-step programs that are available. I have found that Celebrate Recovery, which is a 12-step program based on the beatitudes is and outstanding program and a great maintenance tool for the rest of your life.
One last thought.
I cannot stress the importance of the accountability partner or partners through this who process. Be careful when selecting your accountability partner. It must be a person you trust with your life, because in essence you are.