Lost


Reposted from Radical Mentoring

Imagine you arrive in Chicago for a business meeting. It’s not until the next night so you decide to explore the city. Having never been to Chicago before, you grab a coffee, find a map and set out exploring.

But you realize that the mapmaker made an error . . . he put the map of Chicago under Detroit and the map of Detroit under Chicago (pretend you don’t have a phone). What do you do?

In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey uses this story to describe how we see the world. Covey explains that no matter how we try to change our behavior or attitude, we can’t get to our destination if we’re looking at the world through the wrong lens.

Many of us live our lives like this. We may have a vision (destination) for our lives, but the deeper we get into our careers the further away from that vision we find ourselves.

We may know our destination, but it doesn’t matter if we have the wrong map.

Or maybe there is no don’t have a clear-cut path for us because we have no idea where we want to go. One day we’re chasing financial security and the next we’re focused on becoming the fathers we never had.

If we don’t know where we’re going, it doesn’t matter what map we have.

So how do we end up lost . . . far away from the place we intended to be?

  • We listen to the wrong voice: My kids love changing the voice of my GPS. Sometimes it’s something funny I can still understand. But other times, it’s another language and I have no idea what it’s saying. We’re always seeking advice from different people and places. Too often though, we’re only looking for the answer we want to hear not the one we really need. Seek out a trusted source or even better, your Heavenly Father.
  • We refuse to ask for directions: We joke about this, but it’s true. Men would rather white knuckle our way then stop to ask for help. Fear and shame become our tour guides and we find ourselves on a path we never intended. Malcolm Smith calls shame the “leukemia of masculinity” because it allows failure to slowly destroying men’s lives. It leads us to navigate on our own, unable to see the consequences ahead.
  • We try to take a shortcut: In my 30’s, I was VP of Sales at a great company with a group of talented people reporting to me. Great money, no travel and plenty of recognition. I had arrived. But after I noticed how much the outside sales team was making, I thought “Why can’t I do that? Spend a few years traveling and shave a few years off my plan? So, I took the job, hit the road and began a downward spiral, ultimately leading to depression. Some shortcut . . .
  • We blame the mapmaker: What’s our first response when things don’t go our way? It’s never to look in the mirror and revisit the series of decisions that got us there. No, we point fingers at others and ultimately at our Heavenly Father for ‘allowing this to happen.’ We tend to look back on the negative markers of our journey. It’s much more powerful to shift our perspective and reflect with gratitude on the high points.

My family and I recently moved back into our home after some renovations. When you move, you always uncover meaningful things. This time, it was a wooden box holding a compass and a letter . . . a gift from Regi when I was promoted to VP of Sales. I’d kept it on my dresser but allowed it to become common amongst the items surrounding it.

Its message was simple . . . north is always north whether we follow it or not. Just as God’s direction for our life is always there, it’s up to us to follow Him.

The compass reminded me that it’s ok to ask for directions and that True North always points directly to the Mapmaker, our Heavenly Father . . .

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